Love is not something that is always constant. Love is sometimes like the price of meat in the market, which can go up and down depending on the circumstances. Therefore, a long relationship requires the skill to fall in love with the same person over and over again. Because, the passionate love at the beginning may decrease, especially if the relationship is no longer comfortable.
This change in feelings can also be seen from daily attitudes. It hurts to realize that your partner no longer loves you as much as they used to. But sensitivity is necessary, so that you are not shocked when everything is clearly seen in front of your eyes. Boost your heart if he is doing these things more and more, because something has changed in his feelings.
1. The word “whatever” comes out of his lips more and more often. Even the word “how good do you think it is” more and more often comes out
At first the word up seemed to contain no problems. Perhaps a decision is easier when it is made by one person, as long as the other is not forced. However, if the word “whatever” is being said more and more often, shouldn’t his concern be questioned? In fact, two-way discussion and conversation show the same contribution in a relationship. Why do you seem to have to decide everything alone? Why do you feel like fighting for this relationship alone?
2. The intensity of giving the news is decreasing day by day. The longer it goes on, the more it disappears
Not wanting to be a demanding and attention-hungry boyfriend . Your wish is as simple as being told when you’re not together. It’s natural that you want to know how his life is going today, right? However, later he needed to be asked before he gave the news. Likewise with the speed of replying to messages that are getting slower. It did not rule out the possibility that his mind was being occupied by other more important things. However, without the initiative to explain, maybe he was actually dodging.Advertisement
3. He never again invites you to hang out with his friends. Moreover, coming to formal events in his office
In the past, he diligently invited you to join his friends. He wants you to know what his world is like. Even if there is an office event or an invitation, you are like an inseparable complete package. However, lately he’s become less and less inviting you to hang out with his friends. Meanwhile, the intensity to spend time with friends, office, or family is also getting bigger. When you want to come along, he’s busy making excuses to say no. Perhaps the feeling was different.
4. Your spoiled nature made him exasperated and laughed. Now he often sees it as a nuisance
You’re not a spoiled boyfriend. Those who want to go everywhere are accompanied and assisted by him. But there are times when you want to be pampered too. Pretending to be cranky even though he just wants to be persuaded. Your attitude used to make him excited and didn’t mind. He even said it was funny. However, now the difference is clear. He no longer thought it was funny. In fact, he is often annoyed and openly finds your attitude annoying. It hurts, but you can read the feeling from there.
5. He is getting more and more insensitive to your every change. Also, he rarely talks about his problems to you
Without the drama ” Yank , is there something different with me?”, he is quite sensitive to your changes. When you’re not as cheerful as usual, he’ll immediately ask what’s bothering you. However, now his attitude was different. He wasn’t as sensitive as he used to be, or maybe he was just pretending not to know. He doesn’t even bother to ask and when you start to get annoyed, he just asks “What do you want?”. Instead, he’s also starting to stop opening up to you. He used to think of you as the first place to vent. Now, he’s covering things up more often
6. Without realizing it, he often compares you with other people. As if whatever you do is not good enough in his eyes
Being compared to others is never fun. Even if it’s as simple as “You don’t want to try dressing up like him? Beautiful, lo …”, it felt like my heart was stabbed. He should have understood, but lately he’s been comparing himself more and more. Whatever you do doesn’t feel good enough for him. In fact, he often gets angry when you try to surprise him. Unappreciated struggle is very painful.
7. If you’re fighting, he’s less likely to listen. In fact often bring up your mistakes behind
Everyone must have made mistakes. Likewise you, who have made mistakes during your relationship. In the past, everything has been discussed, and he has forgiven. However, lately the intensity of your quarrels has increased. His attitude was different. He used to want to sit alone and have a nice talk, now it’s getting harder to listen. Emotions are explosive, and often bring up mistakes you’ve made.
8. He starts to shy away when you talk about the future. As if it was a scary topic
It used to be a common thing to talk about the future. For example asking “If we get married later, do you want to use Javanese or Sundanese customs?”. Or talk about “Eh, I think having two children is enough, right? Boys and girls like that, right?” Now, all topics about the future seemed to be avoided. He’s just silent when you start discussing the reception. When asked about his projection for the next five years, he chose not to answer. The topic of the future, especially about your relationship, suddenly becomes scary.
If the things above have happened, it means that something is wrong, and makes his feelings change. However, it doesn’t mean that your relationship is hopeless. First of all, you need to talk. Reveal everything with a cool head without emotion. The matter of how the conclusion is, that’s later. Because left to drag on will only hurt the heart
